Friday, January 29, 2010
Dating Tips: 10 Signs He's Not the One
By YourTango.com Updated: Jan 28, 2010
Some people say they "just knew" that they were dating their future spouse. But what about the rest of us? What happens when you're not sure if he's The One? If you're considering long-term commitment or marriage, it's time to ask yourself some tough questions. Below, 10 signs that may indicate he's not for you.
1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work. If you're fixating on his flaws, he's either not the one you want or you're not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace -- or at least accept.
2. You don't trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you're hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something's wrong. If there's something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he's not the right one for you.
3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all... even if it looks that way.
4. When you're sad, you don't turn to him for comfort. When you're a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can't see you at your worst? If you're worried about scaring him away, one of you isn't ready for total commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.
5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He's sweet. He's exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he'll do so on his own terms.
6. You can't really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask yourself: Would he make a great parent? Is he financially responsible? Would he be an equal partner in your future together? If you have doubts, he's probably not the one.
7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible. You want kids; he doesn't. You go to church every week; he's an atheist. He lives in the country and doesn't want to move; you can't imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth over. Ask yourself: "Would I be willing to compromise on this?" If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.
8. You don't respect each other. He puts you down in front of your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your eyes when he talks because there's just something about him that embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can't sustain itself.
9. You're not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn't do it for you, he's probably not your best long-term match.
10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling... Don't ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level, but if your instincts are telling you he's not the one for you, listen. That little voice inside your head does not lie.
Some people say they "just knew" that they were dating their future spouse. But what about the rest of us? What happens when you're not sure if he's The One? If you're considering long-term commitment or marriage, it's time to ask yourself some tough questions. Below, 10 signs that may indicate he's not for you.
1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work. If you're fixating on his flaws, he's either not the one you want or you're not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace -- or at least accept.
2. You don't trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you're hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something's wrong. If there's something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he's not the right one for you.
3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all... even if it looks that way.
4. When you're sad, you don't turn to him for comfort. When you're a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can't see you at your worst? If you're worried about scaring him away, one of you isn't ready for total commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.
5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He's sweet. He's exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he'll do so on his own terms.
6. You can't really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask yourself: Would he make a great parent? Is he financially responsible? Would he be an equal partner in your future together? If you have doubts, he's probably not the one.
7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible. You want kids; he doesn't. You go to church every week; he's an atheist. He lives in the country and doesn't want to move; you can't imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth over. Ask yourself: "Would I be willing to compromise on this?" If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.
8. You don't respect each other. He puts you down in front of your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your eyes when he talks because there's just something about him that embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can't sustain itself.
9. You're not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn't do it for you, he's probably not your best long-term match.
10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling... Don't ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level, but if your instincts are telling you he's not the one for you, listen. That little voice inside your head does not lie.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
iPad: Steve Jobs presents Apple's new tablet
Apple CEO, Steve Jobs, unveils the new IPad at an event in San Francisco Wednesday. Apple promises that this tablet computer will combine all the best elements of the company’s line of phones and laptops. You will be able to run all apps from the IPhone. It is bigger than the IPhone but smaller than the Mac, naming it “the best of both worlds”. It is said to have a 10 hour battery life and more that a month of standby battery. It will come with a price tag of $500 and available in March. But according to sources, the IPad is getting mixed reviews. Would you get one? Tell me what you think?
Mariah & Ne-Yo... This is typical Mariah hotness...
Mariah is all over the videos today. She's on twitter promoting this one also. Now this I do like. Enjoy. Mariah & Ne-Yo "Angels Cry" This is what you always expect from Mariah. Great song, great vocals.
Mariah Carey & Nicki Minaj
Mariah Carey's much awaited video featuring Nicki Minaj. Remix for “Up Out My Face.”
Opinion Poll... What do you think???
Vanessa Williams was spotted on the set of "Ugly Betty" in this outfit. Don't know if this is a costume for the show considering she plays Wilhelmina Slater, editor -in chief of Mode magazine or if this was in Vanessa's wardrobe. But whatcha think??? Yay or Nay???
President Obama's State of the Union
Full length video of President Obama’s 1st State of the Union Address since he took office. In his State of the Union, he talked about the state of the economy when he took office and the state of the economy now. He covered the Bank bailout, creating new jobs, giving 30 billion ($) to small businesses, clean energy, college tuition & student loans, our armed forces & health care. If you missed it, you missed a very good speech which covered a lot of things that will definitely affect you one way or another. So please take a listen and form your own opinions.
Visit msnbc.com for Breaking News, World News, and News about the Economy
Monday, January 25, 2010
Dubai does it again
Dubai to build “World’s Largest Arch Bridge” in 2012
What a surprise. Dubai is at it again. These people are amazing. First they construct their own islands in the form of The United States of America, which they appropriately named “The World”
then they constructed their second island named “The Palm”,
then they built the world’s highest tennis court and golf tee in on a helipad that is attached to the world’s most luxurious 7 star hotel named “The Burj” which stands on an its own artificial man made island.
And now, when you thought we were in a recession, Dubai is on schedule to build yet another one of a kind design. It is being called the World’s largest Arch Bridge. The mile-long bridge will be 670 feet tall at its highest point! It will accommodate 12 lanes of traffic with a metro line running down the center. It is estimated to be able to carry over 2,000 vehicles per hour in each direction and has a price tag of 817 million dollars.
This is definitely one place I would love to see for myself.
What a surprise. Dubai is at it again. These people are amazing. First they construct their own islands in the form of The United States of America, which they appropriately named “The World”
then they constructed their second island named “The Palm”,
then they built the world’s highest tennis court and golf tee in on a helipad that is attached to the world’s most luxurious 7 star hotel named “The Burj” which stands on an its own artificial man made island.
And now, when you thought we were in a recession, Dubai is on schedule to build yet another one of a kind design. It is being called the World’s largest Arch Bridge. The mile-long bridge will be 670 feet tall at its highest point! It will accommodate 12 lanes of traffic with a metro line running down the center. It is estimated to be able to carry over 2,000 vehicles per hour in each direction and has a price tag of 817 million dollars.
This is definitely one place I would love to see for myself.
Saturday, January 23, 2010
It's been a while...
I know it's been a while since I've been on here. I didn't make a New Years resolution or anything so I'm not breaking any laws or nothing but I am trying. As you can see, I've been doing research and tryna make things happen. I've brought to you some more hot shit that I've found during my many hours searching the Internet. Now, if I only had the money to buy all of them. For those of you who may be new to my blog, I know I may post some things that are a little pricey and out of the normal person's price range but these are the things I like. NO, I can't buy a lot of them either, but why would I post things that you can go down to your local mall and see. Where's the fun in that. I try to open people's eyes to the other things that are out there. Ya know, give you something to work towards, or something to dream about. Who's to say you'll never be able to buy em. Hell, I just want you to see what out there and your job is to make the rest happen. I can't do it all. Anyway, hope you enjoy and I'll definitely be on the look out for more. Holla.
This is why I love summer...
Now I know some people may get thrown off by the color of this one but I love green so I can see myself carrying this in the summer. If the price was a little more to my liking. But if you can afford it, damn, go for it. It's such a bright summer bag. This also is from the Louis Vuitton Spring & Summer collection. It is called the Monogram Denim Sunburst. They have it listed at $2330 with matching bag charm sold separately for $1120.
Absolutely HOTTTT, no other words to describe em...
Above are some of the newest and most fabulous Louis Vuitton's I've seen in a long time. They are scheduled to be released with the 2010 Spring and Summer Collection debuting February 2010 and selling for $2880. Introducing the Louis Vuitton Neo Bag. Absoutely hottttt. According to reviews, this bag will probably be the most popular from the Louis Vuitton spring and summer collections. There are three styles in the Monogram Eden design (as shown above). It only comes in three colors, Kaki (above), Argent, and Pêche. I personally love the green (Argent) one.
Endurance Striped Watch...
Ok guys, I didn't forget about you. Just needed to find something worthy of posting. You know I've been gone from this for a while now, so I gotta get back into. I'm always coming across things for the ladies because that's what I do. Shop and browse. Anyway hope this one is a good one for you. It's the Burberry Endurance Striped watch. It's listed at $495 but it is gorgeous. I think it's a real attention getter. The band alone sends the statement of "this is not just your average watch" this is a time piece. lol. Holla.
What better way to get through the winter season...
Came across these brown ones too. Well actually they refer to them as Nightfall Chocolate. Again these both will run a little over $100 each but it's well worth it on those extremely cold days. Plus, even though your belongings in your purse won't really need to stay warm, you know you gotta match it up with the hott ass boots. The pictures don't really do the boots justice cuz they don't really make them look the same color, but they are both listed with the same color name and are both authentic Uggs. Now the question is brown or black. Not a bad decision to have to make if you ask me. Holla.
Stuart Weitzman Studded Denim Sandal $395
Ok ladies, I'm back on the hunt for shoes. I came across this lovely pair thought my Neiman Marcus email that they send me EVERYDAY. Boy they just don't let up. But they always have cute stuff. If you haven't signed up for their email, do so. You'll definitely get a heads up on all the upcoming Springs lines from various designers. They have these cuties for $395. So if you're in the position for a $395 shoe here's one I really like. Or you can send me a pair just for putting you on. Holla.
Friday, January 1, 2010
Official Video: "On To The Next One" Jay-Z | Swizz Beatz - Roc4Life
Official Video: "On To The Next One" Jay-Z Swizz Beatz - Roc4Life
Haven't been on here in a while, but I come with gifts. Check out the new Jay-Z video. "On to the next". This my shit too.
Haven't been on here in a while, but I come with gifts. Check out the new Jay-Z video. "On to the next". This my shit too.
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